Understanding who you are is a fully loaded question. It is a question that can come with so many attachments, we often associate who we are with our profession, our social media profile, and what we believe of how others perceive us.
In different ways, we are shaped by the above mentioned however, to honestly understand who we are we must do some self-reflection. This is not a pass to all of a sudden criticise yourself about perceived shortcomings but more so, reflecting on strengths and weaknesses, reflecting on your relationships and your role in them, reflecting on your performance in work, sport, training, a reflection of your mental health, your happiness or lack thereof. It is not necessarily neither good or bad but rather an honest assessment of where you currently sit, what you want out of your life and then being able to make small incremental changes to make progress.
Over the last few months, I have been doing some self-reflection but it hasn't been until the last month or so that I have really been honest with myself and reflecting on my values, my perception and how this is affecting my mental state, who I am spending time with and most of all, the actions I am engaging in to progress my relationships, my career, my own development and the impact that both I and The Fit Collective have on every single one of our clients.
It is confronting and can be uncomfortable but after I spent some time writing out where I feel I sit currently, I felt such a sense of relief because I am able to act on my weaknesses to push forward. It is not about creating a dramatic to do list but unless we take some time to do some honest self assessment we just end up taking what other people tell us is right as gospel.
Self-awareness is just another element that can contribute to your success - a few questions to be asking yourself have been listed below. Let me just remind you - these questions are not designed to start a pity party for one, it is time to own who we are because at the end of the day just because you may not want what the marketing world is telling you to want doesn't make it wrong nor does it make you a horrible person.
1. Rate your happiness in the following areas of your life (1-10, 1 being terrible, 10 being I couldn't rate this any higher)
- Work life (think career progression, salary / pay, colleagues, enjoyment, location, commute)
- Relationships with friends (think quality not quantity)
- Romantic relationships (everything from emotional support to sex)
- Family relationships
- Physical health
- Mental health
- Self development (are you learning? do you tap into your creative side ?)
- Relaxation (do you holiday or do anything to just switch off?)
These are just a few elements of life to start considering and just the tip of the iceberg but once we know where we stand we can start asking questions such as:
- What will increase my happiness, relationships, financial scores etc ...
- What is one action I can implement to start ?
- Who can I seek out to support me?
Change is hard, we know that - so just start with one action, it can be as small as you want it to be but without taking any action, you simply won't be able to change - period. Change requires a level of education, so knowing what you know will allow you to seek out what you do not know.
Do not be afraid of a little self reflection, use it to go further in life not to hold yourself back.